How to overcome shyness at social dos

Some people really lose their voice when they come face-to-face with a good-looking person. Read on and learn to leave your fears behindShyness is uncomfortable and if you find yourself tongue-tied in social occasions, it could take a toll on your overall self-esteem. But there's no need to lose all hope. It's perfectly natural to be nervous when meeting a good Comprehending body language Reading body language may often seem like voodoo, but it is not that difficult. What you should know is that your mind interprets body language sub-consciously and uses it to form impressions about anyone. Once you start paying attention to this, the signals are easy to read. It's a language that we speak everyday and it is extremely intuitive. You just need to become consciously receptive to it. Understanding your shyness You need to understand your brand of shyness and how it manifests your life. Try to comprehend what situation triggers this feeling and what it is that immediately puts you back in your shell. Find your strengths To prevent this from happening, you need to look for your strengths. We all have unique qualities and various ways to expressing ourselves. Focus on something you are good at. Though this might be a short term fix, it will give you immense confidence and help you break your self-imposed barrier of fear. Looking man or woman Since first impressions matter, if you keep away from the person completely out of shyness it may be misinterpreted as arrogance or plain bad manners. Learning to overcome shyness isn't difficult. What not to do -Be careful not to go overboard with your chatter and watch what you say. -Do not indulge in personal conversations when meeting someone for the first time. -Don't be aggressive, rude. -Refrain from using abusive language. -Try to respect the other person's opinions even if you do not agree with it. -If somebody is avoiding you, do not pile on.

GUIDE TO A BETTER LIFE

 totally believe and practice this…everyone should….

Dear Friends, This is amazing, he died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book “The last lecture”before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind… In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan, and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow.May you be blessed by his insight. POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE Personality: 1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. 2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment 3. Don't over do; keep your limits 4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does 5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip 6. Dream more while you are awake 7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.. 8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness. 9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others. 10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present 11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you 12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime. 13. Smile and laugh more 14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree. Community: 15. Call your family often 16. Each day give something good to others 17. Forgive everyone for everything 18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6 19. Try to make at least three people smile each day 20. What other people think of you is none of your business 21. Your job will NOT take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch. Life: 22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do. 23. GOD heals everything 24. Do the right things 25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change 26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up 27. The best is yet to come 28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful 29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it 30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy. While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you know. Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.

How to maintain your fitness???

Fatness to Fitness

 

Do one thing. Compare pre marriage photograph of your father with your latest photograph. What is the difference? No doubt there are many differences but the major difference is tummy. Your Dad’s tummy was not separately shown in the photograph as in yours. Comparatively at your age, Papaji was slim than you. Why these two tummies are incomparable? What is the reason for this change?

 

The main reason is changed life style. How our life style differs from our ancestral life style?

 

In the present scenario machines plays an important part. Nobody live without machines. You want Motor cycle for travel, Computer for work, Mobile for Communication, Air Conditioner for prevent heat, Refrigerator for cooling water, Lift instead of climbing stairs etc. From a small need to big need we have to depend on machines. Survival without machines is impossible. There is no argument that machine make our life easy, comfortable and convenient. But side by side it gives us what? A fatty body and an enlarge tummy. Comforts given by machine make us lazy. In earlier ages people do more physical work. Most of the people use bicycles for travel in their town and walk in case of short distance. But that get replaced with Motorcycle. Unavailability of time and wide spread urbanization has made the use of bicycles at minimal level. According to survey in year 1978, 67% youths of Punjab state are physically fit to join military and after 22 years position is reversed. In 2010 only 33% of Punjab youths are physically fit to join military.

 

Heavy workloads on youth are also making their life style poor. In the era of Globalization everybody was running for a good job. There is cut throat competition and widespread change in technology that create huge burden on the mind. Today’s youth have time for everything but not for him. Due to excess tasks in offices they have to work for odd hours. In India generally offices start at 10AM in the morning and when it ends is still a mystery. Night time is the time when your body releases chemicals and juices for digestion of food. Emerging BPO’s, works in night time to collaborate with foreign country timings and late night sittings are become a part of essential office culture. Sorry to say that plays havoc with your digestion system and a main reason of enlarge tummies.

 

Basic Indian foods are Dal-roti and Chawal-bhaat. Westernization have changed our culture and give us food which is fast to cook and very tasty. Burgers, patties, Pizzas, Pastas etc. are very delicious. These all are commonly known as JUNK FOOD. These all are the gift of western culture to our country. But its ill effects cannot be ignored. These are delicious and uncontrollable to eat and their major nutritional ingredients are carbohydrates and saturated fats. In these days Heart diseases are increasing at alarm rate because of heavy consumption of Junk foods as these contains saturated fats which get stored and block the veins.

 

People have no time to exercise and take care of them. Their focus towards money and save their existing job. Increasing use of fertilizers and food adulteration is enough to make anybody sick. These lower the immunity of a person. And situation get more worsen when person only consume and put no efforts to digest. No exercise means give entry to unusual diseases.

 

Dependencies on machines, late night sittings, extra burden on mind, unusual consumption of junk food and moreover no time to exercise add fat and make the body home of diseases. Generally Chartered Accountants and CA students’ faces above discussed problems. Students have burden of studies along with responsibility of office. Long sitting in office and in home for exam preparation ads make body fattier. Students wake up early in the morning for classes and in day time they attend offices. Generally four hour classes, eight hour office and three hour traveling leave no time for them to take care of themselves.

 

Now let me share some most common and easy to follow tips for fitness. Tips require no extra time but only a little bit change in habits. Major problem is not lack of exercise but is change in habits. Increase comfort level is a common thing but how to make a balance with your fitness is an issue.

 

EXCESSIVE CONSUMING

 

Let us start from eating habits. When you do audit of any client, he offers you variety of foods and drinks especially junk. And you keep on taking. The main purpose of client is to divert your focus from audit. This especially happens during bank audits because more NPA’s of a bank mean liquidity crunches. It benefits them because your diverted focus not makes you to find more queries. But it has a disadvantage for you, make you fatty.

 

For that I advice make a habit of say no. Avoid consuming junk foods. ‘No’ is a negative word but we had to be negative when question of our health arises.

 

“DON’T EAT THAT WHICH YOUR TOUNGUE LIKES BUT EAT THAT WHICH YOUR TUMMY CAN DIGEST”

 

USE STAIRS INSTEAD OF LIFTS

 

I never understand when anyone is able to climb stairs than why he uses lifts. Lifts are for those people who cannot climb stairs and who are in hurry. Lifts are not for healthy people. Friends always use stairs (if you have time) and avoid lifts. This is a good step for good fitness.

 

HOME FOOD

 

In comparison of outside food home food is healthy and nutritious. However it is not delicious in comparison to outside food but in terms of health it is best. Generally in audits client provide lunch, sometime this is prepared in clients own mess/canteen or any outside branded / unbranded food. It’s difficult for anybody to reject client offering of lunch. It’s not a question of status but who want to lose free offerings. Chartered accountants mean money savers of client. When it come to own money saving which CA or CA students don’t want to grasp the opportunity. But that free food only and only costs your health. I strongly advise always bring your home made lunch cooked by your lovely muma with you even lunch is offered by client. No doubt nothing is more costly than health.

 

For those students who don’t live with their parents I advised always eat light and healthy food. Never go for branded always Eat Light and Jiyo Light.

 

OTHER TIPS

 

Avoid junk foods. Avoid burger, patties, pastas, pasta, pastries etc. However I don’t advice complete avoidance but taking should be in acceptable limit. Don’t take Junk food as main course or when you feel hungry but take it only for taste. For fill the bowl anyone can take fruits, roasted chanas, salads like carrot, reddish etc. Moreover these are easily available with any hawker.

 

Stop taking cold drinks. These are major source of fat. Experts compare cold drinks with Toilet Cleaner. Tongue like cold drinks a lot. But if we talk about our tummies it says NO TO COLDDRINKS.

 

Two or three teas are enough in a single day. More than that is not good for health. Always drink double water after half hour of tea. It kills toxics of tea.

 

Drink 3 – 4 liters of waters daily. It improves digestion system.

 

Never mix up your professional and personal life. Never bring office to your home. Forget office tensions and work in home. Live a cool personal life. It makes your mind relax and cool.

 

LOL (laugh out louder).Smile is the solution of the conflicts. Always bring a smile on your face. Whenever talk with anybody give a little smile.

 

Chat online/offline with friends make mind relax. Friends are an important part of life. Life is incomplete without friends. Share your feelings and emotions with friends give mental stability. 

 

MEDITATION

 

Above lines are only for fitness of body. Now talk about for mind. Our mind is CPU of our body. How to control the burden on mind? No any single day gone when mind have not to passes through vein bursting session.

 

The best way to fit our mind is MEDITATION.

 

What meditation does?

 

• It focuses energy towards the right and positive direction.

 

• It converts or ends the negative energy.

 

• It improves concentration and enhances memory.

 

• It improves decision making.

 

• Major benefit of meditation is it works as modem which connects our intuitive intelligence to cosmic intelligence.

 

• Meditation also acts as cooling agent. It cools mind by give direction to thoughts and feelings towards ultimate goal.

 

How to do meditation?

 

There are so many types and methods of meditation but here we discuss simple one.

 

Best way to do meditation is CHANTING OF GAYATRI MAHAMANTRA 108 TIMES. Chanting is to be done in normal voice. For do the chanting sit in cross leg position, start chanting and count on your fingers. No need to use beads. Our one hand has four fingers and each finger has three columns. It means total twelve columns in one hand. And for 108 times one hand is to be counted nine times.

 

It gives relief from frustration, Stress and tension. A feeling of relaxation is the output of a meditation. After doing meditation for a number of days people start giving feed back. They feel a change in you. However you may not feel the change.

 

CONCLUSION

 

Nothing is costlier than health. If you lose your health you lose everything. Overall: -

 

“HEALTH IS WEALTH”

 

 

Thanks

 

GAURAV ARYA

Email ID: gaaurav.champion@gmail.com

Face book: gaurav.krazzy@rediffmail.com

 

DISCLAIMER: -Views expressed in the above article for give guidance to students and CAs for a good health. In current scenario nobody have time to do exercise. So maintaining himself is a biggest challenge. That’s why the focus of article is towards fitness through change in regular activities. However readers views may be different and don't require any arguments.

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Good Communication Skills

The way one communicates does not only have an impact on their own profession and personal relations, but also an effect on others. Those who do not have appropriate communication skills are usually ignored or simply kept at bay. Where are those with good communication skills are looked upon and well respected. After all a good listener and a good orator are popular in their groups - professional and personal.

Teaching communication skills can be a rather daunting task, considering that almost every individual feels that they are very good communicators. In fact, most trainers prefer to be regarded as facilitators, who are able to bring to light the nuances that occur while communicating ineffectively, rather than pointing a direct finger and saying - You all cannot communicate well'. and when this occurs the participants are ready to delve deeper within and bring out the negative aspects of their communications and replace it with the corrective measures.

Based on the communication skills training programs conducted by known experts in the field, here are some tips to good communication skills :

Maintain eye contact with the audience : This is vital as it keeps all those present involved in the conversation. It keeps them interested and on the alert, during the course of the conversation.

Body awareness : One needs to be aware of all that their body is conveying to them, as well as others. For instance, if there is anxiety rising during the course of a conversation then one feels thirsty and there maybe a slight body tremor. At that point one needs to pause and let someone else speak. A few deep breaths and some water works as the magic portion at this point.

Gestures and expressions : One needs to be aware of how to effectively use hand gestures and the way they need to posture their body to convey their messages effectively. Sometimes it may happen that they verbally convey something, but their gestures and facial expressions have another story to tell.

Convey one's thoughts : It is important for one to courageously convey what they think. This is because when things are left unsaid, then what is being spoken is not as convincing as it should be. Then a lack of confidence develops.

Practice effective communication skills : One should practice speaking and listening skills as often as possible.

In order to practice effective speaking skills one cane read passages from a book aloud, in front of a mirror, or simply perform a free speech in front of the mirror. And where listening is concerned, one can try transcribing from the radio or television, etc. this helps in honing sharper listening skills.

COMMUNICATION SKILLS

It really matters ....

Every one enters the job market to find the very right job! Most of them are well qualified and experienced. Yes, most of them possess the right skills too. Still a large population fail to find the right job matching their qualification and skill sets.

Why? 

Recall your last shopping experience.  You buy anything only when you feel that the product is worth the price. Let us analyze your normal purchase decision in a Q&A format. 

How do you know that the product is worth the price?

You assess the usefulness, features, effectiveness, suitability  etc. of the product and compare the price of similar products in the market.

Who tells and convince you that this specific product is superior, worth and apt for your purpose ?

The salesman or the shop keeper.

Why the salesman takes pain to convince you ?

He wants to sell his product.

Similarly , when you enter the job market the prospective employer is coming for a shopping. He is coming to acquire the right talent. Here also, the employer assess you on certain parameters before taking a hiring decision. He looks whether you are useful, effective and suitable for his organisation. He will also see what value addition that you can offer to his organisation.

If he is convinced, no doubt , he will hire you. Let us analyses this situation. 

Who is going to convince him that you are the best ?

Here is no salesman to support you. You are the product and salesman. You have to market yourself. If you succeed in that you will get the right job and the right compensation.

What is the pre - requisite for this marketing effort ?

Like every marketing effort you must be able to communicate effectively. For that you have to use both written and oral communication.

What is the use of written communication here ?

Written communication is very similar to a product brochure. Yes , you are going to use an effective professional curriculum vitae , which is your product brochure.

What is the use of oral communication here ?

An interview is an inevitable phase in every hiring process. This is the time for face to face interaction. You have to convince the employer that you are worth and suitable for his organisation. After the face to face interaction he must feel that you are the candidate he was looking for. Here , you are using oral communication to market you.

Hope you got the significance of communication in landing the right job. Think about the pathetic situation of a job seeker, having enough qualification, experience etc. lack in communication skills.

Let us move further ! Just ask a question yourself.

Do I possess proper communication skills to impress my prospective employer ?

If your answer is negative ; NO NEED TO WORRY.

Boldly accept it. Then understand , you have attained certain academic and professional qualifications. So, there is no need to doubt your ability and competence. Recollect, that long way from your kindergarten days to this moment. During the first day in kindergarten, you were knowing nothing. But today, you know a lot of big things. It is a proof that you are competent and you can learn anything and  acquire any skill , if you have a burning desire in your mind.

Take a committed resolution that I WILL BE AN EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATOR WITHIN MONTHS. I'm sure that you will.

You may be wondering why I  have that much confidence on you.

I belong to an ordinary middle class family. I'm a first generation professional.  I had my schooling in an ordinary Malayalam medium school in my village. I have made a sincere effort to overcome my limitations in communication. My effort was a  success  and I am still trying to polish my communication skills.

I have successfully adopted certain techniques to improve my communication skills. Definitely, I wish to share them with you in the later parts of this write up. 

expect updates !

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